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A quick and charming way to boost your self-esteem can be found… in a folder!
When you feel your confidence is fading away and you need to bring it back quickly and firmly… dive into your LoveFolder!
The LoveFolder is a specific place (it could be digital – easily accessible anytime from your smartphone, or real – at home/office) where you collect ALL the great feedback, emails, compliments, testimonials you’ve received so far. And I’m sure you’ve received plenty, each time smiling and thinking “Wow, that’s really nice to hear!”… but then you left where they are. Isn’t a pity to get such wealth forgotten? Wouldn’t make you feel great diving into it once in a while, to remind you how great and appreciated you are?
- Then find them!
- Collect them all together.
- Reconnect with the spark they gave you.
- Let them boost you again, keep them alive.
You know where to find them, it’s just probably not on top of your mind right now… Scan your Facebook, Whatsapp, email, Linkedin, texts and every single channel you use to communicate with the rest of the world.
Building your own LoveFolder will help you:
- Feel great when you do it!
- Be conscious of your value seeing it, touching it, absorbing it
- Providing a place where you can go each time you feel low where you can breathe, feel and smell the recognition you’ve received so far.
You may be surprised to know the majority of my clients reach me in search of a boost of their self-esteem because they lack 2 fundamental things:
- The celebration of their past achievements, often taken for granted
- A structure that reminds them how great they are
When I ask them to do this exercise, I can see an immediate shift in their attitude (I love that moment!): positiveness and confidence arise.
Research shows, in fact, that after thinking about happy events for just 12 minutes, people get more positive, feel better about themselves, and have higher expectations of what they can achieve in the future (on the flip-side, those who think about negative events for about 12 minutes rate themselves as less-confident, friendly, popular and intelligent – see “Influence of affect on cognitive social learning person variables” – Wright & Mischel).
The scientific foundation of this tool is that positive mood leads to inspired actions. In fact:Positive memories have the power to make the future seem brighter, triggering a proactive behavior. Use them. Click To Tweet
Ideally, you want to dive into your LoveFolder right before starting a new challenge or taking a relevant decision.
If you, too, tend to forget how great you are, then start right now building your LoveFolder. Take some time to stop, breathe, feel and smell your greatness, looking at your past achievements from a wider perspective. Celebrate who you are and how much the world loves you (no matter how old those messages are!). Keep those gratifications alive, and they will serve you as a solid ground for your self-esteem.
Enjoy it, and let me know how your LoveFolder looks & feel! Write below, please.